Safety Tips for Dating
Safety Tips For Dating
Dipping your foot into the dating pool can be fun. But it's important to take precautions both on and offline to be as safe & secure as possible—especially when meeting someone for the first time. It's easy to throw caution to the wind but we're here to help you stay safe. We strongly encourage you to read and follow the tips below. These tips are not meant to scare you, but they are important to remember—especially in these times of increased online fraud—since you may feel vulnerable, especially if you haven't dated in quite some time or if dating is new territory for you. Use common sense, especially when you are talking to or meeting someone new.
- Don’t share personal information on first contact. Never give out your full name, home address, personal email address, or phone number to people you do not know. You can get free email accounts from services like Gmail, Outlook.com and many other sources. Choose a username that is generic and does not include any personal information such as your name, birthdate, address, kids’ names, city you live in, etc. See our blog post on how to create a free email address.
- Use Google and other online tools to research and vet potential matches.
- Protect yourself financially. Never share financial information with people you don’t know. Examples include credit card numbers, bank information, usernames or passwords, or your social security number. Ignore any requests asking you to wire money and report those to us at [email protected] or by calling 617-496-6686.
- If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Be very cautious of any communication you receive asking you to act immediately, asking for personal information, or sounding too good to be true. Examples may be:
- Someone claiming to be from the U.S. but who is traveling, living or working abroad
- Claiming to be very recently widowed, divorced, or separated
- Asking you for money
- Talking about “destiny” or “fate” especially on first contact
- Asking for your address under the guise of sending you a present, flowers or a package
- Correspondence containing grammar and spelling mistakes
- Correspondence containing strange links, inappropriate or harassing photos, or inappropriate or harassing language
If you receive suspicious or inappropriate correspondence from any of our advertisers or from someone who has seen your ad, please report those instances to us at [email protected] or call 617-496-6686.
Offline tips for first dates:
- Get to know someone a bit before you set up a first date. You can use Google or other search engines to get information on people. If you wish to do a background check on someone before you meet, there are websites that allow you to access that information for a fee.
- ALWAYS meet in a public place for your first date. Meet at a restaurant, a museum or another populated, public place. Do not meet in a remote location or at your date’s home or your home on your first date. At the end of the date, do not invite your date back to your home or go to their home. If someone is pressuring you to do so, leave immediately.
- Tell friends/family about your date. Make family or friends aware of your whereabouts, and make sure you take your mobile phone with you in case of emergency.
- Don’t overindulge in alcohol/drugs. Stay sober, clear headed and in a position where your judgement is not impaired.
- Transport yourself to and from the first date. Drive yourself to and from your first date, take public transportation, have a friend drive you or take a taxi/Uber/Lyft or other ride share option. Be in control of your own ride.
- Keep personal items with you at all times. Keep your purse, wallet, bag near you at all times. Keep your drink with you or finish it if you need to excuse yourself in order to avoid it being tampered with.
- Long distance meetings. Stay in a hotel and do not reveal the location to your date. Arrange your own transportation to and from the date and to and from the airport if you are flying to a destination. Do not invite your date back to your hotel room after the date and do not go to your date’s home or hotel room after the date. Make sure your family and friends know where you are.